The Apology You'll Never Get: the Companion.
Listening on Spotify? You are in the right place. This is the free companion mentioned in the audiobook. Download it below, print it or fill it in on screen. No email, no sign-up.
Seven exercises, three extra pages.
Each page takes one turn of the book and turns it into something you can write. There is no order to follow and no right answer. Some pages take five minutes; some you may come back to months from now. A single word is enough. A blank page is fine too.
- 01The nameChapter 1
Who you are waiting on, and what you actually need them to say. Not "sorry", the real thing.
- 02The billChapter 3
What the waiting has been costing you, so you can decide whether to keep paying it.
- 03The one I oweChapter 6
The sentence someone may be waiting for from you, and everything in you that wants to add a "but".
- 04The real audienceChapter 8
Who you are really talking to in those imaginary conversations, and what they needed to hear.
- 05What would I be admitting?Chapter 9
The one question about the anger, the love, or both, that shows what the waiting was guarding.
- 06The witness statementChapter 10
The sentence you have been waiting for, written to you by the one person who saw everything: you.
- 07Closing the fileChapters 12 and 13
The date you decided to stop waiting, your sentence for the table, and what to do with the space.
- +Before the tableGatherings
A short page to prepare a family dinner or an event with the person, and to leave when you want.
- +If you're the one who owes itChapter 6
Questions to prepare an apology of your own, whether you send it or not.
- +When a book isn't enoughSupport
When and where to find professional help, including free helplines in more than one hundred countries.
On paper, on screen, at your pace.
Print it and write in the boxes. If you are waiting on more than one person, print the first page again and give each one their own.
Open it in Adobe Acrobat Reader or Preview, tap inside any box and type. Save a copy when you are done so your answers stay with you.
Nothing you write leaves your device or your desk. Nobody will read it but you, which is rather the point.
Write the sentence you have been waiting for.
The witness statement is the heart of the book. The companion gives it a page of its own, with the example from chapter 10 to start from.
Frequently asked questions
Is the companion really free?
Yes. Download it as many times as you want and print as many copies as you need, for your own personal use. No email, no sign-up.
Do I need the book to use it?
It is designed to be used alongside The Apology You'll Never Get, and each exercise refers to its chapter. Most pages also work on their own, but the book gives every exercise its full meaning.
Can I fill it in on my phone, iPad or computer?
Yes. Open it in a free PDF reader such as Adobe Acrobat Reader (computer, iPad or Android) or Preview on a Mac, then tap inside any box and type. Save a copy when you are done so your answers stay with you. You can also simply print it.
Is what I write private?
Completely. The file stays on your device or on paper. Nothing you write is sent anywhere, and nobody will read it but you.
What if the exercises bring up too much?
Stop, put it away and do something kind and ordinary for yourself. The last page lists when and where to find professional support. The companion is an educational tool, not a substitute for care.
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